Arranged Marriage

Everyone knows how hard it is to find a mate for marriage. Each person is free to decide how the mate selection will take place. Some people would rather conduct this selection by themselves, without any help, while others prefer to get help from an outside source, like their parents or a matchmaker. In this essay, I will make a distinction between the traditional arranged marriage and the modern definition of an arranged marriage at 3 points: first, matchmaker; second, arranged mate's attitude; third, the life after marriage.

First, the difference is matchmaker. The traditional arranged marriage is determined by the parents without the consent of the future couple. The modern view is very different from traditional view. In most instances it is a service, provided by an agency, or a good friend. The purpose is to find a compatible mate, with the greatest number of similarities and the same primary objective: marriage.

Second, the difference is the arranged mate's attitude. In tranditional arranged marriage, the arranged mate can not refuse that arrangement. In modern view, the arranged mate has right to refuse that arrangement if she/he feels her/his mate unsuitable for self.

The last difference is the life after marriage. In traditional arranged marriage, after marriage, the love may come or may not come. In modern view, because marriage accompanies with love, it is sure that life after marriage would be happier.

With three points about the difference between the tranditional arranged marriage and the modern definition of an arranged marriage above, I hope everyone would have a new view about arranged marriage.