Birth Order

Birth Order Theory has to do with when you where born as appose to your siblings. Being the first born I think has a lot to do with how I am and how I was raised.

I was the first child to my parents but also the first grandchild on my father's side. So I think with that came a lot of issues that I dealt with growing up. I can remember my parents stating that my feet didn't hit the floor until I was two. My dad has eight brothers and sisters so being the first niece they were all spoiling me. I remember being pretty young and going to my grandpa when my mom told me I had to do something and didn't want to. When I was two my little sister was born and I think the rivalry started then. It wasn't just me anymore and there were also other babies in the family that were born. We also moved away from the family so that was a big change and I all seemed to be my sisters fault. Looking back now I can see how silly that was, but I remember for years thinking she was the cause of a lot of issues with my parents.

I think being the oldest child made me more mature. My mom always seemed to treat me with more respect that the others. I had more responsibility than the others, and I had to help with my younger siblings a lot. I think this affected me that growing up I always wanted to be a good mommy, never a doctor or a lawyer. Taking care of my siblings was great to me I felt like there mom and I had the authority to make them do what I said. I liked that and still do to this day. I am a very bossy person I think I tell my sister what to do more than she wants to hear, sometimes I feel like I am more her mom than her sister. It was up until this year that I never joined in on the fun things they did I always felt like I was older and to old to do things with her. That is something that I brought with me from having to care for her, being only two years apart you wouldn't think she would listen but that is just how we always where.

Another thing that I think being the first Grandchild was I was always closer to my dad's family than my mom's. It seemed like they always went out of there way to be with me and make me happy. They never had that connection with my sister. I was always everyone's baby even after they had there own children. I think this made me a lot sadder as I got older and now they don't treat me that way. I always felt that they would all be there no matter and now I am realizing