Childern in Divorces

The article, "American Voiceless:" The Children of Divorce, written by Susan Milano; is an article that surrounds itself around the outcomes of divorce and also how those outcomes affect the children of the divorce.

Ms. Milano wants you to believe that divorce is almost a given in most relationships because we spend too much time trying to get the other person to "choose us," other than being our true selves. She believes that these misconceptions later lead to feelings of betrayl and mistrust, inevitably breaking up the marriage, as Milano says;

"When the marriage ends it is like a house set on fire. All desired hopes,

dreams and commitment cherished by both sides, goes up in smoke."

These are strong words coming from Milano, she wants you to think that there is nothing left; but what about the children? She claims to focus on the them and how they feel, but to deny them the respect of being a parent's "hopes and dreams" is almost taking

away their voices herself. I do agree that sometimes the children's voices aren't heard, but the reasoning behind this is that children are not able to make informed decisions; they do not have the experience or the education.

Another thing I don't agree with is Milano's beliefs that parents could work out the "private details" among

themselves. In a divorce things can't be private, you and your spouse are saying we can no longer do this and that you need help. Some of that help, yes, is in the form of lawyers; not "funeral directors". When you get married you are not only making a spiritual commitment, but a legal one; and lawyers know how the law works; why wouldn't you want to protect yourself?

Milano's article seems to be biased, and it makes me wonder if she herself was a child of divorce. She seems to believe that parents take in no concerns when dealing with these issues and especially when dealing with their children. If two people have chosen to live together, marry, and reproduce; I believe they have the capacity to think about more than just themselves.