Effective Leadership

PERSONAL PHILOSOPHY

What does effective leadership mean to me?

I came across different people who came in my life and they taught me some meaningful lessons. The first lesson I ever got was from my parents. When I was a child, my mother taught me that you should always be honest on what you say and what you do. We should admit our mistakes without any hesitation. If you do something; make sure that it is ethically right. My mother is sacrificing in nature and is always concern about others. She gave up her comforts and desires because she focused on other people priorities. I follow the same trait and always put interest of other people first. I remember those days when I used to fight with my sister for something she got from my parents and I did not. My narrow thinking affected our relationship and this created a negative environment at home. The whole atmosphere was tensed and my parents were not happy with it. I was trying to be egoistic and believed that I deserve more than my younger sister. My parents made me realize that I need to sacrifice my self-interest. Don't be cruel to your younger ones because they are depended upon you. They need love and support from you, so take it as a responsibility to take care of them. There was one very important lesson they taught me that the way you want to present yourself; you will be portrayed in the same way in future. This can be through your behavior, your acts that describes you as a person. If you want to make your life well organized, follow your everyday routine. This is something I learned from my father. He was very strict about my everyday schedules and sets the plan that I need to follow. At that time I did not realize the intention of my father that why he was doing this but I opposed him for his actions. When I grew up, I developed maturity in thinking and realized that planning is important to take independent decisions on your own. For example, one day I was going for a trip to hill station with my friends. My mother warned me to take precautions before I catch cold. She said that I need to carry proper medicine and cloths that will help me to prevent from any disease. I did not pay attention to her advice and went there without taking any precautions. I was overconfident about my decisions and proceeded ahead without knowing any negative outcomes. The result was I caught cold and had a severe chest pain. I was on the bed for one week. I realized that parents are your well-wishers. They have more experienced about the life. I was feeling guilty about not paying attention to her advice and held myself responsible for my worse condition. As a result, the whole trip was ruined and I had to go back home. There were many lessons that life taught me like you need to believe in yourself. I need to take decisions that define my course of action. During the midterm exam my friend told me to stay with him and I should not worry about exams. I knew that I need to devote proper time to my studies without which I cannot succeed. I was also aware about this thing that I need proper concentration for my studies and this is only possible when I am studying alone. He convinced me and I was influenced by his soft spoken skills and the result was negative. I realized that I need to focus on my own strength and weakness. Every person cannot adapt himself to the same situations. As a result, my timeline for exam preparation was ruined and I was not able to get good results that I was expecting. I interpreted this situation as even if you are aware of the consequences you still try to fool yourself by behaving in this way that you never know this before. I need to listen to my inner voice and do things that are more appropriate for me. Your decisions should not be depended upon other people and be consistent about what you want to achieve during short time period. It is good to take views, suggestions from others but do what you want to do. I am committing myself to not repeat this mistake again. I remember the day when I got the job for the first time. My mother told me that I should be honest about the moves and action I take. This is important in your workplace, if I want to develop a good relation with my employer. They always count us on our actions and the decisions we take that reflect our behavior. I need to show respect to our teammates, bosses if you want to develop a good recognition in your workplace. I need to appreciate them for their contributions and credibility they deserve. This all will pay me in the long run in my workplace.

When I was in grade nine, I met an instructor Mr. Ravi Kalia who has been my role model. I considered him as my idol who I admire the most. The first lesson I ever got from him was that how to be well disciplined. He has shared some meaningful thoughts that inspired me the most. The knowledge he shares has a lot of impact on student's life. He has totally transformed my personality and I want to give him a lot of credit for this. My perception about what I think about people has totally changed. When I was feeling isolated in class and never used to participate in group discussion, he helped me to overcome this problem. There was a fear in my mind about what people think me as a person and may discard me. . He observed me well couple of times. I had counseling with him and he told me that I need to control on my assumptions I make about other people. I need to expose myself towards different people. The good thing about this is that I will learn many things that will help me in my personal growth and will pay me in the long run. I remembered the day when the annual school function was going on and I was feeling apart from the other students. I was having frustration on different students. My situation was like I am nowhere to exist. He understood my suffering and came to me asking to state my problem. I observed his behavior and was pleased by the way he took pains for me. There are many teachers who just try to be professional and keep themselves limited to their teachings. He was exceptionally different who has the ability to look at my issues in different ways. He told me to believe in myself and stop thinking about what other people say about me. The best remedy I got from him to overcome my personal problems was that I talked to myself in front of the mirror and evaluate about how I look and present myself to other people. This way I will gain confidence and will develop a positive attitude. After few days it worked and I introduced myself to different students. The situation was becoming normal and I started enjoying my school life. I felt a sense of accomplishment and involved myself in group discussion of students. I learned that sometimes people may not know you as a person before you take an initiative to introduce yourself to them. I should not expect situations to become normal