Emotions

Emotions No matter how hard you try, you cannot

control your emotions, only attempt to hide them.

Emotions influence every aspect of our lives, what we

do, what we say, and et cetera. All of our emotions,

from anger to insecurity, are influenced by several

factors, just as our lives are influenced by our

emotions (Gelinas, Emotions 35). First of all, it

causes problems when one does not trust himself, and

it shows up in many ways. Some people brag to call

attention to themselves, causing others to believe

that the egoistic person has a lot of self-respect.

Very often though, egotism can be an attempt to cover

up insecurity in a person who does not feel they will

be good enough without it (Gelinas, Emotions 36).

Bragging about one's achievements, material

possessions, or achievements reveals a sense of

inferiority. Even though one may brag their whole

lives, they never reach a sense of well being. This is

caused by fixation, which is when a person does not

grow emotionally after a certain point (Gelinas,

Emotions 64). A person that brags a great deal may

also be considered a snob. A snob may not act as a

braggart for the same reasons egoistic people do, for

what snobs do is act so that they end up isolating

themselves. They do this to avoid the trouble of

friends, responsibilities, and emotional relationships

by giving a snobbish attitude to the people who put up

with these things (Gelinas, Emotions 45). Another sign

of insecurity is envy. One often envies another to

hide a lack of trust in themselves. They envy others

accomplishments because they don't think they

themselves can achieve those accomplishments (Milios

39). Many factors influence anger. Most anger is

caused by a situation that makes one feel

uncomfortable (Licata 14). This uncomfortable feeling

could also be described as feeling threatened. Feeling

threatened could lead to angry feelings because a

threat can cause harm. Things that could make one feel

threatened include disapproval, betrayal, deprivation,

exploitation, manipulation, frustration, violence, and

humiliation (Gaylin 95). One has their own ways of

handling anger, most of which are unhealthy. Denial is

one way of handling anger by using self-deception. In

denial, one does not allow themselves to register a

feeling that is threatening in one way or another

(Gaylin 96). Bigotry is another way of handling anger.

"A person that is prone to anger must create an object

to be angry at. Therefore, the object of the anger is

not the cause of the bigot's pain, but the solution"

(Gaylin 114). Anger can sometimes turn into hate. Some

different terms for hate could be annoyance,

irritation, hostility, or maliciousness. Some of the

"symptoms" of hate include wanting to hurt, humiliate,

damage, destroy, threaten, and wanting to seek revenge

on someone. Some people try to justify their actions

by having the motive of wanting to destroy to rebuild

on a stronger foundation (Gelinas, Anger 12). There

are five distinguishable kinds of hate: incipient,

inward, explosive, deflected, and constructed.

Incipient