Emotions
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Emotions No matter how hard you try, you cannot
control your emotions, only attempt to hide them.
Emotions influence every aspect of our lives, what we
do, what we say, and et cetera. All of our emotions,
from anger to insecurity, are influenced by several
factors, just as our lives are influenced by our
emotions (Gelinas, Emotions 35). First of all, it
causes problems when one does not trust himself, and
it shows up in many ways. Some people brag to call
attention to themselves, causing others to believe
that the egoistic person has a lot of self-respect.
Very often though, egotism can be an attempt to cover
up insecurity in a person who does not feel they will
be good enough without it (Gelinas, Emotions 36).
Bragging about one's achievements, material
possessions, or achievements reveals a sense of
inferiority. Even though one may brag their whole
lives, they never reach a sense of well being. This is
caused by fixation, which is when a person does not
grow emotionally after a certain point (Gelinas,
Emotions 64). A person that brags a great deal may
also be considered a snob. A snob may not act as a
braggart for the same reasons egoistic people do, for
what snobs do is act so that they end up isolating
themselves. They do this to avoid the trouble of
friends, responsibilities, and emotional relationships
by giving a snobbish attitude to the people who put up
with these things (Gelinas, Emotions 45). Another sign
of insecurity is envy. One often envies another to
hide a lack of trust in themselves. They envy others
accomplishments because they don't think they
themselves can achieve those accomplishments (Milios
39). Many factors influence anger. Most anger is
caused by a situation that makes one feel
uncomfortable (Licata 14). This uncomfortable feeling
could also be described as feeling threatened. Feeling
threatened could lead to angry feelings because a
threat can cause harm. Things that could make one feel
threatened include disapproval, betrayal, deprivation,
exploitation, manipulation, frustration, violence, and
humiliation (Gaylin 95). One has their own ways of
handling anger, most of which are unhealthy. Denial is
one way of handling anger by using self-deception. In
denial, one does not allow themselves to register a
feeling that is threatening in one way or another
(Gaylin 96). Bigotry is another way of handling anger.
"A person that is prone to anger must create an object
to be angry at. Therefore, the object of the anger is
not the cause of the bigot's pain, but the solution"
(Gaylin 114). Anger can sometimes turn into hate. Some
different terms for hate could be annoyance,
irritation, hostility, or maliciousness. Some of the
"symptoms" of hate include wanting to hurt, humiliate,
damage, destroy, threaten, and wanting to seek revenge
on someone. Some people try to justify their actions
by having the motive of wanting to destroy to rebuild
on a stronger foundation (Gelinas, Anger 12). There
are five distinguishable kinds of hate: incipient,
inward, explosive, deflected, and constructed.
Incipient
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