Good Black Men

Good Black Men are indeed all around us.

We pass them on the streets, in the malls and the halls at work. Most we can't see because we don't know what a good man really looks like.

He usually isn't flashy enough or rich enough to turn our heads. He might not wear a suit or push a Lex. He might not have a "body like Tyson with a

Denzel face." But, as you mature, you realize it's better to find someone who's got your back than someone who turns your head.

A good man doesn't agree wholeheartedly with everything you say. He doesn't just tell you what you want to hear and do the opposite.

He doesn't declare how sensitive, sweet, caring, sincere, yada, yada he is (he won't have to because it shows). He has his own opinions and yours

may clash, but he doesn't have to degrade you to prove he's right.

He even admits at times to being wrong, especially if you are willing to do the same.

A good man is not going to meet every item on your checklist. He is human with frailties and faults mixed in with all of his wonderful, strong

attributes.

He needs your love and respect. He needs to feel that you don't live to "catch" him doing something wrong so you can declare, "Aha!

I knew you were a dog!!"

A good man isn't insecure about his women having great achievements. In fact he is her number one supporter and becomes disappointed with her when

she begins to lose herself, for the sake of "not hurting his feelings, or I just want to make him happy."

His happiness comes with seeing her excel in her dreams and accomplishing her goals. For as she excels and is exalted, a good woman will bring her

good man right along with her.

A good man doesn't necessarily give you a huge birthday or Valentine's gift.

He shows his love in the ways that are comfortable