Happiness

Is life really about the 'money', the 'cash', who has the biggest gold chain or who drives the shiniest or fastest car, who sells the most albums or who has the most respect? Today happiness is viewed in many different ways. Everyone defines happiness according to their personal perpectives. Each individual describes their inner feelings in a way that you can't compare with another.Happiness originally and logically means the inner state of well being or a pleasurable or satisfying experience. It enables you to profit from your highest: thoughts, wisdom, intelligence, common sense, emotions, health, and spiritual values in your life. What makes you happy and what makes me happy are different things. Whatever it is that gives you warm fuzzes is determined by you, and only you. This difference is what makes the world interesting

Most of the happiness that we experience comes from the feeling of love. So many people look to their love relationships,especially marriage to give them the happiness that they cannot find on their own. Love is not enough to provide happiness, then there must be many frustrated lovers in the world. The belief that love gurantess happiness is left over from the ideology of romantic love that tells us we will live happily ever after if we can only find the right person with whom to spend our life with. If we realize that love by itself will not bring happiness, then hopefully we will be more tolerant of the imperfections of those we love. If our relatioships have their problems and if those we love do not always meet our expectations it doesn't mean that we have lost our chance for happiness. When we do not expect love to give us the happiness we seen, there will be more room for forgiveness of the imperfections and problems that always accompany love.

What makes us happy is so varied. To be happy is a fleeting thing, which we enjoy so much and often want it back as soon as possible .The things that make me happy in my life can seem boring to others.My happiness is my health,my success and my marriage. My happiness is to have a shoulder to lean on when my days are going bad. Marriage has helped me look forward for my future. It opened my heart and my mind to the true existing world. It's not like I wasn't happy before I got married.Actaully I was happy a s a single college student, living with both of my parents,two brothers and two sisters in California. I was getting my education living normal healthy life but I knew something was missing and that was a person to share my life and heart with. The lack of love that I had at that time made me rethink and askmyself , if I would be happier if I was in love? Of course I couldn't answer to my own question at that moment. I remember when I graduated from highschool, if only I can express the feeling of comfort that I felt on that day. I honestly can't express it because it's an inner feeling and

touch that only the individual itself understands it and feels it.Another thing that I can defiantly consider to be a happy experience is birth. Giving birth to a child is an ultimate feeling.I've never had a baby but I would positively

love when that day comes. One day I asked my dear friend that's very close to me if she's happy in her life and I told her to be completly honest with me. She said," Zain, I would love to answer your question, if only I knew what