Learning the Skill of Self -Responsibility

Learning the Skill of Self -Responsibility

There came a moment when I had to look at my life and claim it as my own. I put

myself here. I created this world that now seems upturned. I had to finally

claim that Ð''personal responsibility' for my life. Taking this step required a

skill that needs to be learned by many individuals. The acceptance of inner

acknowledgment that we are solely responsible for our choices in life, even when

life deals us a flop, will give us an upper hand. Taking control of that bum

deal frees us to seek out and accept help for ourselves.

In taking on this task we must ask ourselves this simple question, how rational

are we in dealing with the part we played in being who we are today? And if not,

who is the responsible party? Why are we so programmed to blame? Alexander

Graham Bell (1827) said, A man, as a general rule, owes very little to what he

is born with- a man is what he makes of himself. In entering adulthood we chose

how our self-esteem develops, but instead we seem to always have that, if it was

not for her or if I could only go back and do things different. We must learn to

work out our anger, hostility and depression over those haunting ghosts and

focus on our now. Who we are and where we are going with this life.

In starting this process it is wise to make a list of those parts of our lives

that are inconsistent with the lifestyle that we have for seen for ourselves.

Taking small steps towards removing these inconsistencies will lead us to that

life we desire. Now think of the very best moments in your life, what where you

doing and who made it special. Doing inventory of those times will give one a

definition of their rightful happiness.

Next, and probably the most important aspect of accepting personal

responsibility is realizing that happiness and having control of ones life go

hand in hand. The more responsibility one takes, the more in control we are.

This in turn will make us freer to make decisions for ourselves and more able to

do all those things we want to do.(Tracy 2006) Seems to be that some the

happiest people in the world also have the most control over all realms of their

lives.

Just as Spinola (2005) states we all have a conscience, we cannot justifiably

excuse our behavior by claiming ignorance. It is not reasonable to say that a

murderer, a wife beater or drug dealer are criminals because of the neighborhood

they grew up in or because society let them down. Owning up for our decisions

enables us to look at the cause and effects our choices create. Redirecting

blame