Relationship Analysis

Relationship Analysis

This analysis will base itself on the relationship between my husband and I. I believe this relationship will help give the best examples for the concepts that have been chosen. Self -disclosure, the use of "I" and "you" language and effective listening are concepts that have been applied to this relationship. As these concepts are explained, used, and altered to fit this relationship, they will ultimately make a dramatic influence and give the relationship a big push in a positive direction.

My husband Peter and I started dating during a low point in each of our lives. We have each been hurt and abused for a long period of time, and in many ways by the ones who said they love us. We have a strong relationship in that we work together and separately as needed to make ends meet and to keep our babies happy and healthy. Within our personal relationship there were a lot of hang-ups and guards that prevented us from communicating effectively. Instead, we were very defensive and struggled to have a decent conversation. Both of us are very insecure with ourselves. It hasn't been easy for either of us to let our guards down for fear of hurt and pain (which we seem to expect more when things are going good).

"Self- disclosure is the process of deliberately revealing information about oneself that is significant and would not normally be known to others". If I know someone is going through a tough time with something and I have been there before, I don't have to know them to sit next to them, hold their hand and tell my story. I will do my best to give as much valid factual information if they need it and a good shoulder and ear if they don't.

I wear my heart on my sleeve so to speak. I share my life with everyone. I don't believe that one person has the right or power to uphold judgment on anyone so I don't worry so much about it. It's just an opinion from someone that hasn't walked in my shoes. My husband however, believes that your business is YOUR business and nobody needs to know what is going on in YOUR life. I thought of that as lying by omission when someone is asking how school is going and you say it's going ok when it's really going bad (until recently). However, in our relationship I have learned that some things are better left unsaid. For instance, I don't disclose much about