Seduction

Seduction

An applied psychological approach to the old problem of seduction.

Or, in lay terms (sic) "how to chat up that bit you fancy".

In this essay I shall attempt to convey my observations, and

research into the art of seduction. Seduction is a game which is

played everyday in every country by millions of people. It's simply

a natural form of human courtship. Nothing to be ashamed about,

unless like me you're married, in which case it can be a dangerous

game. Seduction is not the same as flirting. Flirting is more

malicious, Eric Berne refers to it as the "game of rapo". Flirting

is simply capturing attentions, and often involves teasing.

Seduction, however, is the act of trying to convince some one -

usually a stranger - to mate with you. You don't have to take it

this far, you can use the principles to establish a long lasting

loving relationship, but all journeys must start with a first step.

In human relations, this first step often involves physical

attraction which triggers our biological system into lust mode.

Even if you wish to remain a virgin until

your wedding night, to

get to a wedding night you must establish a raport with a suitable

partner. In this essay I should like to describe some of the more

successful ways in which raport can be established, and hopefully

without being too dry and boring.

Making the move. To me this is the hardest part. The actually

walking up to a complete stranger and making an introduction.

Sure, it's easier if you are introduced, by accident perhaps?

Accidents are wonderful for breaking the ice. I don't mean that

you should run your victim over in your car, no, rather that you

might "bump in to them", apologise, smile and voila! Or perhaps you

and your victim smoke? In this case you may disvover that you have

"lost" your cigarette lighter, or that it's run out of fuel. How

unfortunate, now you have an excuse to approach the victim in order

to request ignition of your cigarette. A gentleman may of course

offer a light to a woman, even an old slapper is not adverse to a

little feminine flattery some times! If all else fails, try "Hi!

How ya doing?" It works. Why? Because it's non-threatening,

friendly, open, honest and not controversial. It should be said

while maintaining eye contact and with a genuine smile.

Having made contact, it's time to move in. Your opening lines are

vital. It is in these first few seconds, no more than fifteen, that

you must establish the link between you and your victim. An opening

line of, "Cor! I don't half fancy you!" will rarely succeed in

anything more than embarrassement for the victim resulting in

defence, and a lonely night for you. Rather, perhaps admire

something about them. Now beware, they know you are trying to

seduce them (or "chat them up" as is the common phrase), so be wary

of obviously cheap and shallow praise. Rather, pick something which

they are obviously very proud of. If the victim has an intricate

hair-do, the chances are they are proud of it and keen for it to be

admired - so do so. There's little

to be gained from mentioning how

good the victim looks in Levis, we all wear them.

Contact is important. Admiring the victim's watch or bracelet can

give you the opportunity to touch their arm gently. Done in a

practised way this can be very erotic. The arm is an erogenous

zone, don't caress it, that's obvious. Rather, be gentle, soft and

casual. Watch the victim's body language. If they shiver and a

glazed look flashes through their eyes, you're onto a winner!

Perhaps you read palms? You don't? You should! Nothing like it.

Everyone adores having their palm read. Especially women. It gives

you a carte blanche for two things: Firstly it enables you to hold

their hands. Secondly, you get the chance for some subtle flattery,

and making the victim feel good and important.

Success depends upon convincing your victim that: a) they are

having a good time (you are interesting); or b) that they are going

to have a good time (in bed with you). It is easy to convince

someone that you are interesting, simply let them do all the

talking. Paradoxical it may sound, but people love talking about

themselves and about things they feel passionate about. If you can

get