Sex Who Needs Itt

Sex Who Needs It

I've found the past couple of years to be an eye opener in the world of

sexual experiences. I'm not necessarily referring to my own

experiences, but those of society in general. There was a time when

more smart-conscious decisions were made relating to sexual

relationships. But times have changed. The pillars that hold up our

individual sexual values have started to crumble. No longer can we

create our own standards without feeling ostracized by the society that

forms the standards for us. With influences coming from the media,

infatuated hormones and opinionated peers, teenagers today have turned

the act of love making into a whimsical joyride.

The difference between making love and having sex is miles apart. To

make love, the partners involved use their hearts more so than their

parts. To have sex, the partners use their parts more so than their

hearts. The key to this Dr. Seuss rhyme lies in the selected noun that

the partners use in their actions. Since hormones and feelings (hearts)

both exist on a different level, saying that they are the same would be

to take away all the feeling, emotion and love involved in love making.

Teens are letting their hormones control their sexual decisions by

giving in to the pure pleasure of sex. To make up for their lack of

solid reasoning behind their acts, they try to rationalize their

choices. The justification that many couples come up with for having

sex is love. I can't help but wonder how many couples would actually

stay together if their relationship existed without sex.

Friends and peers are a big pressure factor when deciding weather or not

to have sex. As seen in many after school specials, the popular "C'mon,

everybody is doing it," isn't far off the mark. Just knowing that three

or four other couples in a social group are having sex can sway a couple

to give in and start hitting their own home runs on their sexual playing

field. With each new couple having sex, the pressure current becomes

stronger and stronger, especially for those couples not sexually active.

At this point many couples get swept in the flow of the current and just

go with it; they do the nasty. Once they've committed themselves to

having sex, it's very hard to stop. The couple might find out that they

aren't ready for this big step in their relationship, but to stop having

sex would mean to lose face with friends! Well, do you think that

they're going to stop having sex? Not a chance! And, so they continue

their acts of whimsical joyriding, without any care to see where the

ride is taking them, just to keep their status with their social group.

The media is also a persuasive factor that plays a large role in the

life of a teenager. Although t.v. shows, films and magazines are all

supposed to offer escape from reality, many teens buy into the

situations presented as if they were real. For instance, how many teens

watch Beverly Hills, 90210? Now, here's a show that says to kids

straight out, "It's o.k. to have casual sex and not think of any

consequences." The writers even took the only virgin on the show,

Donna, who remained true to her faith for so long, and had her give up

her virginity. The one thing the writers failed to look at however, is

the number of youth that watch the show, and in that number, how many

take the ideals of the show and use them as their own personal values.

All of the characters on 90210, the most popular "teen" show on t.v.,

have casual sex. Teens who watch the show are going to take this into

account when