Single Mother

The percentage of children living in single parent families* nearly doubled between 1970 and 1995, in which 86 percent live with their mothers (U.S Bureau of the Census, 1996 cited in Sayad, Strong, & Vault, 1998, p.533). This increasing number of single mothers has led to a controversy in the way children are reared. Some regard these "broken homes" cause a number of badly brought up children. However I personally think that single mothers can raise good kids by using good parenting skills and closer relationship with their children.

To begin with, single mothers often have suitable parenting skills. An upward trend has been witnessed among educated and professional women who are choosing to become mothers (Zanden, 1996). Thus, in general they can obtain better knowledge in bringing up children and also be highly aware of their children's academic background. Moreover, as single mothers, they have ability to assume the roles and attributes of the absent parent (Richard & Schmeige, 1993 cited in Sayad, Strong, & Vault, 1998, pp.533). In other words, they have the strength of fatherhood and the sensitiveness of motherhood. Therefore, they adopt an authoritative, consistent and nonpunitive discipline that respects and helps children develop autonomy (Olsen & Haynes, 1993 cited in Sayad, Strong, & Vault, 1998, p.532). Obviously, with such positive parenting techniques, children are brought up properly.

In addition, a good characteristic identified in a mother - headed family is tight parent - child relationships. Some studies emphasize that single mothers are closer and more responsive to their children (Sayad, Strong, & Vault, 1998). Due to the fathers' permanent absence, they will sacrifice all their efforts for the sake of children. In return, children in sole-mother settings appear to be more considerate and sensitive. Recognizing their mothers' attempt and the importance of cooperation, children often learn more responsibilities and show high levels of maturity as well as self - sufficiency (Diana, 1998; Sayad, Strong, & Vault, 1998). Clearly, there are a strong emotional tie and mutual understanding within family members and children in single mother households, therefore, can be educated easily.

A common objection to this position is that poverty and single motherhood usually go hand in hand (Zanden, 1996). Consequently, children are hardly provided with good living conditions. It may be true to some extents. However, in fact, lone-mother families still get assistance from a variety of sources. Some can receive child support or alimony from children's fathers. Additionally, they are offered a broad ranges of benefits and subsidies from many charity programs and non-profit organizations such as National council for One Parent Family, Magic Million Appeal or Child Support Agency, and so on. Furthermore, these mothers not only rely on assistance sources they are also more and more financially independent. Statistics show