Stress Management

Psychology Assignment

Stress Management

My life to me has been one big stress ball. The biggest stressful occasion is when my parents got divorced. This had a huge impact on me due to the fact that I was in school and that I always thought of my family as a pretty healthy family with no problems. I always have heard about how other families were getting divorced but I never thought it could happen to me. When this horrific occasion finally came to the last draw where I knew it was final, it had such a significant impact of my thoughts, emotions and bodily changes and changed me to how I am today. After it was all said and done I realized that some of the stressful management techniques got me threw what happened with my family.

I was seventeen when this happened, which means I was old enough to realize what was going on. This had a substantial impact on my thoughts. Everything I thought was a question, why are they doing this? Does this have anything to do with me? Did I make this happen? Do they realize the impact it is going to have on our family and our closeness as a family? My thought were everywhere and I needed answer's because it was effecting my life, my school and my social life because that's basically all I thought about. Most of my answers finally did get solved by my parents. I found out that all they really wanted was to be happy, but they couldn't be happy together, which meant they would live by themselves. This just opened up more thought for me which related to most of my earlier questions but my main question is where am I going to live? How can I decide which parent to live with? That's like asking them which son they love more me or my brother. It ended up that my father told me to live my mother because she needed me more because she is very emotional and couldn't live without her sons, but that it would be okay because he would visit and that we would still have that strong relationship. All of my thoughts were finally answered and even though I didn't want this to happen I understood why it had to happen.

The divorce also did major attack on my emotions, I was consistently sad, angry, confused and it also effected my pride and confidence in myself. There was a three week period where my parents were divorced, but not technically divorced because the papers were not signed, which meant we still all lived in the house together. It was the worst three weeks of my life, the house was lifeless and everyone felt like something was missing for those three weeks, which I knew that, everyone was starting to realize that it was evident that our family was going to break up. Speaking of break up and emotions, at the time I was in a relationship with this girl I knew all my life, we were very good together until the divorce. My emotions were torn up so bad that I wouldn't leave my house to see her and I also didn't feel like talking on the phone, which basically meant I wouldn't let her in and express my emotions or tell her what was going on. We eventually got in pointless fights due to my emotions of anger from the divorce that we broke up. We still remain friends till this day but it goes to show you how such a big stress like divorce can effect your emotions to affect your entire life in everyway.

To tell the truth, I feel the divorce did not impact my bodily changes