The ongoing Struggle for a Family

The Ongoing Struggle for a Family

"The most important thing in a family is that all the people in it love each other."

This excerpt is from a children's book, written by Leslea Newman, Called "Heather Has

Two Mommies." This story is intended to show kids that not everyone's family is the

same. Many reasons are given to dispute gay and lesbian parenting but all founded on

some of the archaic beliefs that Hitler used to kill homosexuals during W.W.II, fear and

prejudice! Although having children and being parents seems like a basic human right or

choice, many people believe that the government should have the authority to

discriminate who can are cannot have children, regardless of their parenting skills.

Some say that it is unnatural for gay and lesbians to have children because they

have to go to such extremes to have them (Oppos ..199). It is kind of ironic because it

has become mainstream for heterosexual couples that are determined infertile to use

artificial insemination, adoption, and even invitro-fertilization, and when one of these

procedures is successful the couple is said to have had a miracle, while the gay or lesbian

couple is said to be fanatical. Lesbian couples may use sperm banks, or they may become

coparents with a gay couple that also wishes to have children. In these cases the child has

4 loving and nurturing parents instead of the standard 2.

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Another opposing view is that all gays and lesbians are sexually promiscuous,

therefore have HIV/AIDS, and their relationships are not stable enough to have children

(Oppos..199). "Lesbians and gays love and form deep and lasting commitments just like

heterosexuals. To claim otherwise is to declare that lesbians and gays are somehow not

human and ignore the reality of their lives," (New Civil..125) Laws and social views

seem be conflicted on what they want because they say gay/lesbian relationships are not

stable, but than deny them the right to marry, therefore through laws and legislation the

are not promoting the behavior that they seem to require. HIV/AIDS is a horrible disease

and truthfully is a major concern in the gay community, but it is because of the

stereotypes, lack of education, and knowledge about the disease itself that this disease

was able to attack many gay males. Although HIV/AIDS is a concern for people in

general the number of lesbian women with it is almost non-existent. Does this mean that

heterosexual couples that have HIV/AIDS are not having children? No, countless articles

can be found about drug using prostitutes that give birth to a baby with HIV and still

retains custody. While in 1997, a women named Sharon Bottoms loses her child in

Virginia to her mother for being gay, "active lesbianism practiced in the home may pose a

burden upon the child by reason of Ð''Social Condemnation' attached to such an

arrangement" the state Supreme Court stated (issues..36). All hope is not lost though, in

June of 1997 an Ohio appeals court upheld that, "sexual orientation alone, has no

relevance to a decision concerning the allocation of parental rights and responsibilities,"

(Issues..37)

Many people believe that gays and lesbians shouldn't have kids because the child

will be molested and/or be mal