How to Treat Other People and Make Them Friends
Essay by review • February 18, 2011 • Essay • 550 Words (3 Pages) • 1,631 Views
1) Do not cricize, do not condemn, do not recriminate: try to imagine why people do what they do.
2) Make common pepole feel important: sincerely appreciate what they do
3) Arouse your own will in other people: do not force other peope to accept your ideas, but make sure the same idea comes to their mind.
4) Be sincerely interested in other people: listen to what they have to say rather than talk about yourself; they mostly don't care about what you have to say.
5) A beautiful smile is worth a billion dollar
6) Remember other people's names
7) Be a good listener: force other people to talk about themselves. To look interesting, look interested. Ask questions that you know the other people like to be asked.
8) Talk about what other people like and care
9) Make sure the other people feel important. Talk about them.
10) The best way to win out of a quarrel is to avoid it: a forced persuasion won't make anyone change his mind (When two people always agree, one of them is useless). Listen first, find common ground, be frank about your possible mistakes, promise to think about their point of biew, thank them.
11) respect other people's opinions: never tell them you are wrong. "BE WISER THAN THE OTHERS, IF YOU CAN. BUT NEVER GO AND TELL THEM".
12) If you are wrong, admit it sincerely before they let you know. ("YOU ALWAYS GET A LITTLE BY FIGHTING. BY GIVING IN YOU ALWAYS GET MORE THAN WHAT YOU EXPECTED")
13) Always start by show yourself as a friend
14) Make sure your interlocutor is forced to say "yes" since the beginning. Ask questions that require the interlocutor to answer yes.
15) If you want to make friends, let them think they are superior. Let them talk as much as they want.
16) Make other people think they had the right idea in the first place
17) Honestly try to see things from your interlocutor's point of view (Why should he listen to me?)
18) Be understanding of other people's ideas and wishes
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