Parent Style

Parenting stages

Speaking about my parent style, I think that my parents were mostly using authoritarian parenting style. But, at the same time, they sometimes used elements of authoritative style when it was necessary. I grew up with my mother so she was a person who established rules and guidelines that I am expected to follow. Because living in poverty, my mother wasn't graduated from high school, she especially valued academic achievement. She always wanted me study very hard, get high grade and reach her very high expectation. I couldn't go out if I didn't finish my homework or learnt my lesson for tomorrow or got a bad grade. When I fail to meet her expectations, she punished me strictly. Beside that, she always taught me how to behave well by her prior practical experiences of relationships in society. If I was disobedient, she spanked or asked me genuflect until I knew my fault and said "sorry".

When I get older my mother wanted me to be quite independent, encourage me to take my own decisions and learn the consequences. She became authoritative, responsive to me and willing to listen to questions. She helped me set clear guidelines to follow, and praise me when I do well. If I did something wrong she just sermonized me and if it was a very big big fault I were punished but not too much when I was a child. I could hang out with my friends more frequently than before but still had rules about going out at night too. She was more flexible but still had some rules for me.

I truly appreciate that my mother chose both authoritarian and authoritative parenting style. It was not only teach me well behaved but also tried to be very open to me in everything. I would be seriously affected by authoritarian style but I don't think it was a bad way. I think the style, which my mother chose, was strict enough for me to grow in the good way. I understand why my mother was too strict when I was a child. She wanted everything good for me and because she a single mom so she was not only a mother but also a father. Beside that, all of my mother's strict high expectation that was established for me also helped me easily adapt to more challenge. Thanks for that I liked challenge and always tried my best to achieve my goals although there were a lot of difficulty. And with authoritative style I became self-confident about my abilities to learn new skills.

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